40  SIGNS AND  REASONS THAT SUPPORT THE FACT THAT MADISON TERJELIAN IS A CHILD BEING ABUSED
BY HER MOTHER AND OTHERS WHILE IN THE CUSTODY OF HER MOTHER

1.  Madison  had an infected tooth/swollen face  in summer 2008 and had to have one of her teeth pulled.

2.  She had two molars pulled March 30, 2009.  She had to be sedated for this operation. 

3.  She is kicked and physically assaulted  by Patrick Duxbury (and others).   Patrick Duxbury has a criminal history/present of domestic assault.  When asked if she likes Patrick Duxbury, Madison  shakes her head no.  Patrick Duxbury claims that the residence in Jericho (where Ashley and Robert and Madison and Mikala (her sister) and others reside) is “unsafe for him”.  If a residence for a 38 year old man is “not safe” for him, what is it for a 6 year old girl?

4.  She see’s naked men and boys at her mother’s house “sometime but not all the time.”  She told me this in late July 2008 at a creemee stand while commenting on an older boy in shorts and saying “ewww. He’s naked.”  I explained to her that he wasn’t naked–her response is that he’s “half-naked.”  When I ask why that is “ewww.”  She says’ she doesn’t like naked men and boys and then tells me that she sees them “sometime but not all the time” at her house and that she doesn’t want to talk about it, for us to “please not talk about it.”

5.  She has panic attacks and doesn’t want to talk about anything that she does at her mother’s house and gives no reasons why.  She becomes VERY upset when asked about why she doesn’t want to talk about what happens at her mother’s house.

6.  Robert Meek and Ashley Terjelian Meek smoke marijuana around Madison.  Madison  has been dropped off  to at least one  visit acting and appearing “stoned”. Her home is (according to Patrick Duxbury as stated in a police statement) “constantly filled with smoke”. 

7. Her mother, Ashley has moved more than half a dozen times, trying to hide Madison’s whereabouts from her father, aunt and grandparents.  Isolating a child is a sign that abuse is occurring.

8.  Moving frequently  is providing an unstable and unhealthy environment for any person or child.

9. Madison is left in the “care” of males, such as Patrick Duxbury and Robert Meek (and others?)  In December 2006 (?) she was left in the “care” of two drunk older males, Paul Terjelian (her now deceased maternal grandfather) and his intoxicated “buddy” who wouldn’t disclose his name to my mother as she spoke on the phone to him.  Paul Terjelian  could not speak on the phone due to throat surgery for cancer.  Paul’s “buddy”  lied repeatedly to my mother and acted like this was a game to him.   She requested to speak to Ashley. He told her that  Ashley was in prison.  She requested to speak to her granddaughter and was refused and was then told she was in bed.  Right after he say’s “she’s laying down”,   4 year old Madison asks “who’s that?” in the background and the drunk male hangs up on my mother–Madison’s grandmother. 
Leaving a child in the care of men like these is irresponsible and dangerous.  What is happening to her under their “care”?

10.  She has had numerous bruises on her body (legs, head and back)  in various stages throughout her life. 

11.  Feb. 2009--She has a huge egg on her head with scarring from an injury made months prior.
The injury is still visible today (May 2009)
This is a SEVERE head injury as it happened when there was no snow on the ground (according to my niece) so this injury occurred in the fall of 2008.  She claimed she fell.  Her mother had a similar type injury in the summer of 2002 (while Ashley was pregnant with Madison).  Ashley writes: “In the past my father has hit me several times in numerous places the most severe time he smashed my head in to our front door in the summer of 2002.  That left a huge egg in the center of my forehead.”  (Colchester Police Department Voluntary Statement Form). 
           
12.  She has an abnormal tolerance for pain such as when she has banged her head or tripped  and fell and shown no emotion that it hurt.  This has been witnessed by her father, grandmother, myself and others on more than one occasion.  She always says, “it didn’t hurt” when it clearly should be painful. She doesn’t cry when other (unabused) children normally would.

13.  Madison  lies about things, including lying about how she has received some of her injuries–claiming “it’s dirt.” or “no one hit me.” 

14.  There is a history/present of domestic VIOLENCE in the Terjelian household–-Abuse is generational and 1 in 3 abused children will continue that cycle of abuse with their own children.

15.  Ashley (the mother) has a history of abusive behavior, including bullying another student  in school to the point of that student transferring for their own safety.

16.  Ashley has a record of domestic assault. She also has problems with alcohol and drugs (lost over 70 lbs in one month according to her.) Her license to drive has been revoked.
 She appears to be on heavy drugs–dark circles under her eyes etc. 

17.  Ashley  views her daughters as her “possessions.”

18.  Ashley allowed her daughter to walk unattended in the middle of the Burger King parking lot at 4 years old—this with many other things, is an apparent lack of care or supervision. Several minutes later, Ashley’s now-husband drove aggressively and dangerously in the very spot that Madison had been left unattended only moments before.

19.  Ashley violently threatened to hurt me in front of her daughter on Jan. 7, 2007.  When I pointed out to her that her daughter was scared and her behavior was inappropriate in front of a child she said, “I DON’T CARE!” And that is the truth. Ashley DOES NOT CARE about her daughter. 
20.  Ashley ignored her daughter’s pleas to stay and play with her dad, aunt and grandmother on Jan. 7, 2007—only to return 15 minutes later with Madison to watch an attempted assault with a deadly weapon against Madison’s Aunt. Earlier, Ashley threatened to hurt me in front of Madison–this is all on video.   She and her husband stalked me,  my brother and mother with Madison present the entire time.

21.  Madison watched from the back seat of her mother’s car as her father, aunt and grandmother were attacked by Ashley’s boyfriend (now husband) Robert Meek.  Robert Meek and Ashley Terjelian Meek verbally assaulted us. Some other unknown female was present and acted like this was a game.

22. Summer 2008, during one of the drop offs,  Ashley and Robert were out of control and threatening Larkin, myself and our  father and mother (her paternal grandparents)  in front of Madison (and her half-sister, who was in the car).  Ashley assaulted Larkin by hitting him in the hand.  Robert and Ashley screamed and carried on and were violent for about 5 minutes until they finally drove off.  Madison put her head down and sat in the car with her sister while this occurred.

23.  Ashley has stated repeatedly in court and to Larkin that  “any stress you put on me, comes out on that little girl.” 

24.  Ashley bit Madison to discipline her in front of Madison’s father and paternal grandmother (in 2007?).  Madison was also being bit by a male child living with them. 

25.  Lack of concentration.  (A sign of sexual and emotional abuse).  Madison has a difficult time focusing and needs to have her attention redirected to the task at hand.

26.  Unsuitable clothing for weather.  On more than two  occasions Madison was dressed in long sleeves and long pants during 90 degree weather in summer 2008.  Or when it was colder, she would be dressed in short sleeves and no jacket.  In 2009 she is still inappropriately dressed for the weather on several occassions.

27.  Inappropriate knowledge of or interest in sexual acts.  Larkin has witnessed Madison playing with a toy microphone inappropriately, by “sucking it”.  When asked what she was doing with it she said, “sucking it”.  And continued with that behavior, in front of her maternal grandfather, Ashley, Larkin and her paternal grandmother at the residence of the Terjelians.

28.  Extreme hunger.  Madison is always hungry at visits and I have seen her rip into bacon like she was starving..  The majority of what she eats is McDonalds or Burger King.  She is ALWAYS hungry.

29.  Ashley and others smoke cigarettes around Madison and always have.  Madison’s breathing is labored, and she has a constant (smokers) cough.  She is ALWAYS congested.

30.  Ashley claims Madison has terrible nightmares–she says they are because of Larkin–which is a lie, because when she first started claiming this, Madison had had virtually no contact with her father–any nightmares were caused by what Ashley is doing and saying to their daughter.

31.  Her face is never washed—her hair is never brushed–and she doesn’t take care of her teeth. This is a sign of neglect.  While these may be minor compared to everything else (the sexual and physical and emotional abuse), it still exists and points to the fact that Madison is a NEGLECTED and ABUSED child.

32.  Larkin Forney witnessed Paul Terjelian (maternal grandfather) playing a game with Madison, where Paul put a book in his pants for Madison to retrieve.  What kind of a game is this?!!  Paul Terjelian has used words and force  to hurt and intimidate Larkin Forney in his attempts to keep Larkin from his daughter.

33.  Fear of a particular person or family member.  She will not say she is fearful of her mother or Robert, because of the fear they have instilled in her—but it is plain as day in her actions when it is time to go back to her mothers house.  She becomes withdrawn and doesn’t want to leave, but knows she has no choice–She lives with her mom–her mom is responsible for her “care” and is under her custody.  They have Madison “brainwashed” and confused, by their behavior, threats and lies.  She won’t talk about what she does at her house.  She has expressed her dislike of Patrick Duxbury–and it is due to what she is enduring at the hands of these abusers.  Madison is verbally expressing that she does not want to go home to her mother (spring 2009) and when asked if she feels safe there, she says no. 

34.  Fear of adults is a sign that abuse is occurring.  Upon initial meeting of a healthy adult male (who is a teacher and works well with children), Madison backed away in fear and gasped.  This occurred in February 2009.  Why is Madison FEARFUL of males???!  Obviously adults that have contact with her (while in the custody of her mother) are hurting her and causing her to be fearful.  Madison’s sense of trust and safety is being destroyed.  

35.  Hostility.  Madison has threatened to “smash you into a wall” when speaking to her father, at only 5 years of age.

36.  Problems in school. Her guidance counselors at school have already recommended that Madison get some outside counseling.  She is in kindergarten.

39.  Ashley constantly tells Madison that her father is a child molester.  This, according to Judge Mark Keller (who still did nothing), IS abuse and damaging when said even just ONCE to a child.  This “child molester” defense that Ashley loves to use, is due to the fact that Larkin is wrongfully labeled a “sex offender” due to the malicious lies and actions of Ashley’s friend (Kristen Place) and others. 

38.  Madison was found to be a Child in Need of Supervision and custody was taken away from Ashley in June 2003 when Madison was only 7-8 months old.  Custody was returned to Ashley regardless of the non-compliance of court ordered “family counseling.”  Ashley has had custody ever since, and her behavior has escalated and become more dangerous and damaging to Madison and others trying to stop her abuse–Abuse that continues to this day–6 years after she was found to be an inappropriate “care-giver” for her child.

39.  Males such as Patrick Duxbury and recently/currently a male named Preston  live and “sleep on the couch”.  Her mother was (in 2003) found to be unsuitable for supervision of Madison.  Her judgement on who to supervise her daughter is also unsuitable.

40. She puts fear in her daughter and makes her feel nervous and “not good.”

41.  Ashley has deliberately and intentionally kept her daughter from visits with her father and family members on the father’s side.  On May 1, 2009, she knowingly and deliberately locked her daughter in the UID school, with the help of school personell.  She knowingly and deliberately walked Madison by her father at 7:45PM even though the weekend visitation with her father started at 5PM–almost three hours prior to this occurrence—
Madison and Ashley were picked up by Robert Meek and did not return the Ashley’s residence  until around 9:30PM. 

42.  Ashley becomes upset and doesn’t like it when we (her father, Madison’s grandmother and aunt) smile at her.  When her father asks her, “well, doesn’t your mother smile at you?” “Not very much” is Madison’s response.

43.  Ashley tells her daughter lies and damaging things about her father and us.  They threaten her to keep her quiet, and Madison told us that her mother tells her that she doesn’t like her spending time with her father, paternal grandmother or aunt.  Madison loves spending time with her father paternal grandmother and aunt.

......there are more, but isnt’ this enough?????? And this is only some of what we know–What happens in Ashley’s house or elsewhere?  She once said in court “well, why don’t you just put a camera in my house!!!?”

 Aren’t the signs and symptoms here and the behavior and words of Madison enough indicators that her mother is an abusive mother? Isn’t the time period and things that have happened surrounding Madison Terjelian and her mother and others enough to reasonably come to the conclusion that something is WRONG here?–that Ashley IS one of the abusive mothers that make up the 65% of all abusers.
It’s a sad reality that MOST abusers of children ARE the MOTHERS.  

Allowing this child to continue to be abused by her mother is beyond damaging and Madison is at risk of losing her life, and losing her chance at a happy, healthy  life each moment she remains in Ashley Terjelian Meek’s  custody. 

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